Stina

Chica’s! So I was sitting at home watching “Our Perfect Wedding” as I was typing this. I really had to write something immediately while watching the show. I will make this one short and sweet, because more than what I feel and think, I am more curious to read what you think about this topic.

Just to give those of you who do not watch “Our Perfect Wedding” some context, that week it was John and Bridget getting married. Firstly, their love story was all over the place for me a tad bit. Maybe I am just used to the “We met at a friend’s braai, liked each other and got on with it” type of story?!

Stina

The couple told the story of how John was Bridget’s comfort while she was going through a break-up and he later asked her out. Okay, cool story. What confused me was the issue on the lady who was pregnant while they were still together (a girl from the same church they are from) – Nothing new in society here, sadly. All on the same page still? Great! Here is the part that confused me:

The Maid of Honour who is Bridget’s bestie spoke of how Bridget actually “took John” from someone else. Then it also came out that John too was going through a break-up at the time of the start of their love affair. Bestie was so chuffed when she relayed the story on how Bridget apparently “won” John from the other lady. I assume this is the lady from the same church who also had a baby by Brother John.

Is John a trophy? 

This is not a new topic. It’s one that we all most probably have with our friends over drinks frequently. The nature in which as women, we pride ourselves in “Winning” other human beings like we are in FIFA 2018 tournament. Snapping our fingers while saying “Stina ke bozza” with pride has become such a norm for us. Why do we do that?

I think it is another reason why our male counterparts perpetuate the notion of competition amongst ourselves in order to win them over. I am a bit disturbed at all of it really. If anything, no one can really be taken from anyone. The person has chosen to move on to what they see as a greener pastures. As depressing and sad as it is, and as much we would like to take all the credit, ladies, chances are there was something possibly wrong in the previous relationship the other person was in ANYWAY. Or ke maka?

It is for the same reason I am of the opinion that a man leaving his partner for someone else is not necessarily a bad reflection of the women he chose to move on with. Sadly, this is the person who always gets attacked, as if it never took two to tango. Anyway…

I don’t know Chicas, I am keen to hear what your thoughts are. Care to share? Let’s chat! Le re Stina ke bozza?

Finale

How would it end?

Well, well, well. It seemed our pleas that we have seen enough of Mary Jane’s ups and downs and we just want a happy ending were heard.

BET has just announced that the Season 4 was the last and the Series will end with a 2 hour Movie Special in 2018. We don’t actually know if there will be a happy ending but it sounds like they will bring back some of the old characters to answer questions. Imagine David coming back and MJ Having to choose between him and Justin? lol my mind is already on overdrive about what could possibly happen.

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Here’s what the star of the show said:

To Every Fan of Being Mary Jane, We have all worked so tirelessly to bring you a show that we could be proud to be a part of. Mary Jane has become my favorite character. We’ve screwed up together, laughed together, evolved together, and raised hell together. I love all her imperfections, and through playing her I became more forgiving of others who are imperfect and on the journey of self discovery and improvement. We watched her struggle with relationships with both men and women, and we watched her finally start to get her shit together.

But the journey isn’t over yet. We, as a Being Mary Jane family, cannot wait to bring you this final 2 hour series finale movie that will answer all your questions about each and every character. More than anything, however, we want to thank you with every fiber of our being for faithfully watching the show and supporting our work… from the actors, writers, producers, directors and enormous crew over the years, we are humbled and we remain grateful. Thank you! – Gabrielle Union, October 2017

So knowing that it’s coming to an end, and that there should be drama: If you were asked to write the finale script for Being Mary Jane, What would happen in the movie and how would it end? 

Now, don’t think about what you want, think about what would be entertaining for viewers.

Go Wild!

 

Being Mary Jane

Man, Mary Jane! What haven’t we experienced with and through her?! We sure have come a long way and every bit of pain, humiliation, joy, disappointment she felt through the years, we felt with her. But I’m tired now. 

It’s been a long road till Season 4. Do you remember when we were Team Andre or Team David?

Being Mary Jane

Before there was Ghost, there was Andre and boy was he something!!! My heart though, was with David and I SO wanted him and Mary Jane to work out. I feel like he’s the one that got away.

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Not the one that got hosed away hehehe like Andre.

I’m really tired just thinking of MJ’s history… Do you remember Sheldon?

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That damn selfish Sheldon? We all liked him at first coz he came wrapped in sheep skin but then he dropped the “Given your history with men, you know I’ll be the best offer you’ll get.” line at MJ. The cheek!

Being Mary Jane

After making a fuss about her getting too comfortable in his house, asking how she got his house’s security code lol (but MJ though), and then talking about how he doesn’t believe in cohabiting bathong, I’m getting upset just remembering this guy.

Oh my word, and then there was Lisa and that confession to David that MJ overhead causing her to crash her car.

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My word, and that lead to this – how can we forget the quickest recovery on earth! The one that was so bad it left her with zero scars on her face?? Miracles I tell you.

And Lisa committing suicide , David having a baby with someone else…

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David really hurt me… Every season I waited for him to come back but clearly he moved on.

I will never forget this scene at the end of season 2, after discovering MJ had stolen his sperm coz she so desperately wanted a baby:

 

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We also had Cutty Buddy at some point during the show, I just couldn’t understand why MJ picked that GandaGanda of a guy , he scared me.

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Then MJ experimented with white men and stopped at the part where she told dude she actually likes Black Men… I remember cringing at that scene. There have been many moments in the show where I felt MJ was extra and unnecessarily rude but hey, I still love her. Frustration manifests in many ways, I guess.

Season 3 was probably one of the best for those who are into shows that highlight social issues but for me it was the worst – thanks to this lady’s character:

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There are shows one watches for Comrade/Amandla vibes and BMJ wasn’t that show for me so I really got frustrated at this lady’s scenes and her woke monologues. I wanted to watch MJ and her relationship issues. At some point even her family drama was featuring more than her life, the whole season 3 felt disjointed for me.

Season 4 though, really more than made up for a lot of things! I got to see the real MJ again. We got introduced to Lee… he was so not MJ’s type but he provided her the stability and attention she needed at that time. Even though I was happy with this for about two minutes, I quickly got bored with this relationship and episode after episode I kept waiting for them to break up.

Being Mary Jane

I felt like MJ was settling and really disliked that. I know it’s weird, that in all these seasons and episodes we wanted her to find love but when she eventually found it, I didn’t want it because it wasn’t packaged in the David/Andre/Sheldon type of package I thought suited her. Lee really made the show boring, let’s be honest, or maybe I just wasn’t ready to watch her become his wife.

And then entered King Justin in our lives! *hearts* 

Yhuuu Thixo! Lawd we thank you for your creations… Amen!

Justin Being Mary Jane

Oh how we hated him when he first got on to the show. I know a lot of people still did not trust him when he started dating MJ but I remained hopeful because he simply ticked all my boxes. With all the drama and everything that happened between them, it ended here… right here with this beautiful, special moment:

Granted, it’s a beautiful moment that could be ruined by the fact that MJ had just returned from the Dr where she was getting implanted with two embryos.. sigh. Meaning she could be pregnant with a sperm donor’s baby, which could in turn ruin things with Justin. This is exactly why I don’t want the show to continue past this point! Is anyone with me??

We have seen enough disappointments, enough suffering, enough heartbreaks, I just want MJ to be happy now. Sure life doesn’t always work out that way but it’s TV after all, we need a happy ending and I know for a fact there is no way a new season will give us Justin and MJ living happily ever after. Not with Justin accepting this child, (if MJ falls pregnant) there will have to be drama and I don’t know about you folks but I am tired of MJ drama. More of this, it will now turn into a soapie and I’m worried about all these beautiful Season 4 moments with Justin getting ruined, wiped out or forgotten hle!

I know it’s taken me a while to get to my point but I feel like this ending would be the perfect cliff hanger to end the show. We would be left wondering if MJ accepts Justin’s marriage proposal, whether she falls pregnant, how he reacts to the pregnancy… and I don’t think it’s a bad thing to leave us hanging. What more can MJ do in Season 5,6,7,8.9 that she hasn’t done already? I hope the season 4 finale is the last we’ve seen of Being Mary Jane.

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I’d really miss Kara though. What a selfless human! She and Orlando made the cutest, sweetest couple! Let’s also leave that relationship at this happy point please.

I think I’ve said a mouthful, though I haven’t even touched on MJ’s family drama. A lot has happened and I think the show’s also had a good run, let’s take a bow now.

Would love to hear your thoughts as well please? What are your thoughts on BMJ? You want more? Why?

By @MsLeloB

As you may have noticed, we love Anele around here. It has been beautiful watching her journey on radio co-hosting with Grant and eventually making her way to the coveted spot on the 947 Breakfast. Her TV journey has also seen her host Top Billing, Clash of the Choirs and Our Perfect Wedding, but our favourite to date has to be Real Talk. Here are our top five reasons why we love it so much.

She meets her guests at their level…

The guests profiled on the show are mostly from the entertainment industry, but often from such polar opposite areas of it. Whether Anele is interviewing Queen of Gospel Rebecca Malope or new kid on the block Nasty C, she is able to speak their language, which in turn makes them comfortable enough to speak to her.

She does her research…

Many times, when you watch the show you will notice how guests are surprised at the details that Anele knows about them. You also find that her questions are prefaced with a backstory. While many may argue that it is all thanks to her team, you can’t argue that it also takes some reading of her own to have the kind of knowledge that she does on her guests. In the latest issue of True Love she speaks about how she gets to the studio to start preparing for the show around 1pm when the show only plays at 5pm. She also recently interviewed Nigerian media personality Toke Makinwa and you could tell that she had read the book on which the interview was based.

She’s true to who she is…

Oprah always says that one of the great lessons she learnt earlier on in her career is that she is a much better Oprah than she is a pretend Barbara Walters. It feels almost as though Anele follows this advice on Real Talk. She laughs as loudly on the show as she does when you share a joke with her at Xhosa Nostra and shares personal anecdotes that relate to the stories and questions that she asks her guests. Her personality really shines through and turns the interview into a conversation rather than a Q&A session.

She helps us see people we have known about for years in a new light…

The way in which Anele conducts her interviews leaves the guests feeling so comfortable with her that they share stories that they otherwise would not have shared. Celebrities like Moshidi Motshegwa who shy away from interviews have come to trust Anele with their stories which allows for us to learn more about them. Just the other day she had Khanyi Dhlomo on the show who shared that she actually started off as a skivvy at True Love before she would go on to be the editor of in less than 2 years – a part of her journey which isn’t always highlighted.

The show’s ratings have been on the rise over the last year that it has been on air and we are excited to see it grow from strength to strength. Hopefully soon, she will have a studio audience and I pray that I am in it when everyone gets a car.

Real Talk is in its third season and is broadcast live from Steyn City on SABC 3 on Weekdays at 5pm.

What are some of your favourite moments from Real Talk with Anele?

by Richmond Sajini

Khanyi Dhlomo

I know this is a bit of a delayed reaction but I just watched Anele’s interview with Khanyi Dhlomo and I can’t get over what a force Khanyi is. She is everything we thought she was, and more.

I’d like to share 7 things she said that had me nodding and going wow…

In following your dream, she says: 

“You don’t have to know the how, you need to know the what and the universe will move everything else around you to create the how. This is because your how also impacts somebody else.”

This is so important to me because so often we give up on our dreams because we worry about the “how”. In fact what she’s saying is that know what you want, take that first step, START, and the rest of the journey will get defined. 

Khanyi Dhlomo

Khanyi also talks a lot about making a positive impact in people’s lives.

“We’ve really got to say (to God) “Use me, I’m ready, this is what I want to do and on this journey from where I am to where I want to be, I want to take and impact as many people as I can.” I think those are the most beautiful dreams and the most sustainable.”

On working as a fashion assistant before being promoted to Editor:

“That moment of deciding to swallow my pride and be the skivvy for a while actually put me in the right place, at the right time and allowed me to be there and then make that history to be the youngest editor of a magazine at 22. The learning there for me was that sometimes your dreams don’t come packaged in the way that you expect. God doesn’t give them to you packaged in the way that you expect because there are lessons that you need to learn and character developments that you need to go through before you can get the goal that you want.

On growth and evolution, Khanyi says: 

“The most important thing we need to realize is that everything is about the growth and evolution of the soul. Everything else around us that we see, our relationships, our jobs, everything that happens is really just an instrument for the soul to grow and the question we always need to ask ourselves is, Am I growing? Am I becoming better? And even if you make a mistake, the thing to ask yourself thereafter is what can I learn, and what can I do differently to make sure that I get back on this track of growth, which is the purpose of our existence. ”

“Nothing in life is a mistake, nothing in life is a waste, everything is meant to be, even the bad. Even in the bad, there is always something good that comes out of it, there’s always a lesson, there’s always preparation for the next level, every time. Our lives are about the next level and you can’t go to the next level unless there’s a level before and a level below. It’s all about growth, everything grows, the hustle is about growth and moving forward in life.

Khanyi Dhlomo

Her message for entrepreneurs and people in the corporate world: 

“Understand why you are doing what you are doing. Understand what problem you are solving. Address a particular need because that will ensure sure you stay in business and that will ensure you positively impact lives that you make a positive difference with your work. My professor at Harvard Business  School used to say “Solve a particular need, cure a pain, address a particular pain. What pain is the customer in and how can you heal that pain with your business.” And yes, that must be your passion, so make sure that it’s something you are passionate about and something you enjoy, but that must be something that addresses a particular need.”

Life is very much about balance. I always say that we should look to nature to be inspired. Then sun shines everywhere but not at the same time. Wherever it is, it’s there fully, a 100% because when you dedicate yourself a 100% to that one place, that full attention sustains that place while you focus on something else.”

You can watch the interview on Youtube below:

 

By LeloB

A United Kingdom

A United Kingdom

” We were taught, sometimes in a very positive way, to despise ourselves and our ways of life. We were made to believe that we had no past to speak of, no history to boast of. The past, so far as we were concerned, was just a blank and nothing more. Only the present mattered and we had very little control over it. It seemed we were in for a definite period of foreign tutelage, without any hope of our ever again becoming our own masters. The end result of all this was that our self-pride and our self-confidence were badly undermined.

It should now be our intention to try to retrieve what we can of our past. We should write our own history books to prove that we did have a past, and that it was a past that was just as worth writing and learning about as any other. We must do this for the simple reason that a nation without a past is a lost nation, and a people without a past is a people without a soul.” 

Sir Seretse Khama, 15 May 1970

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Sir Seretse Khama, or President Seretse Khama was the first President of Botswana and A United Kingdom tells how he defied tradition by marrying a white British woman when his uncle & village were waiting for him to become King and choose a Motswana woman.

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I loved A United Kingdom because it was refreshing to watch a movie about an African leader who is not Nelson Mandela. Filmmakers have been so obsessed with uTata, you’d swear he was the only one of our leaders with a story worth telling. I hope the making of this film means that there will be more African stories that will be told, because I am certain there are more. So a big thank you to Amma Asante for telling this story.

The film stars David Oyelewo as Sir Seretse Khama and Rosamund Pike as his wife Ruth Williams and I enjoyed them in these roles. David really made me fall in love with ntate Seretse and got me wanting to know more about the man. (You can read about him HERE).

Terry Pheto and Vusi Kunene are also in the film and Terry’s role as Seretse’s sister earned her a Best Supporting Actress award at the British Independent Film Awards.

A United Kingdom

The only “review” I have is that I loved this and think you should watch it.

It is currently on Dstv Box Office until 31 May so if you have access, watch it otherwise, go rent it. Wait… do movie renting places still exist? heheh

Check out the Movie Trailer below:

Not everyone loved the movie though, here’s someone who had a problem with some of the facts in the movie. I think he should calm down *insert eye roll emoji* Read his rant HERE, but do that after watching, if you don’t want spoilers.

None of what he complains about takes away from the fact that A United Kingdom is a beautiful love story.

And I’m a sucker for love.

P.S. The current president of Botswana, Ian Khama is Sir Seretse & Ruth’s eldest son.

By LeloB

Lockdown

Lockdown

I don’t always get to watch a lot of TV, unless it’s the weekend or I am on leave. If there is one thing DStv has gotten right, it has to be the local content on its platform. They have been the pioneers in grooming local talent both off and on screen. I truly applaud them for this as it has entertained us so much and made it so enjoyable to watch content that is relatable to the average South African.

One drama series that has got me shook a bit is Lockdown. There seems to be mixed feelings about this series from the masses. I am curious to see what the viewer numbers look like. A birdie has told me that the show has fast become an SA with thousands of impressions online requesting it be included on all DStv bouquet Catch-Up options.

For those who have not watched yet: “The motley crew of Lockdown’s female inmates is led by the tough Ma Z , a leader who wants nothing more than to gain her freedom so that she can become a good and present mother to the daughter she left on the outside. Cunning and not beyond using manipulation, she co-ops those she can – be the other inmates or wardens – to meet her end goal. One of those people happens to be the beautiful and talented Monde, a young woman who left the cocoon of her small town life to pursue fame and fortune in the dazzling lights of Egoliwood. Instead, what she got was infamy, thanks to her wily money-hungry boyfriend/producer Zakes, who introduced her to a notorious lifestyle that landed her in jail.” (DStv)

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The cast –  issa ghel power!

Before I even got to watch the first episode, I fell in love with the idea of watching something that has a female-dominated cast. That on its own got me the biggest smile ever. The next thing that got me easily interested were both the familiar and unfamiliar faces we would see in the season. Great to see our legends and young talent, working together to give us a great show. I won’t lie, I do get tired of seeing the same faces on different channels but this is not an article on “open up the industry”.

It’s great to see Lorcia Cooper back on our screens doing what she does best. She is someone most of us got to meet during the “Backstage” days. The days with the hideous Duke – gosh – hahahaha. She plays the annoying and tough Tyson well. Can’t wait to see what else she has in store for us.

Slindile Nodangala, who plays the boss lady, Prison Govenor is another fav! She did not let being fired from Generations get her down that’s for sure. The role suites her and she is believable. I would visit a prison any day if she was the governor. LOL She looks like she serves fire mgosi.

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I am for the first time, learning of Zola Nombona, who plays the superstar that is dating a weirdo of a guy who is a producer and big junkie. Personally, I don’t think he plays the role well. But that is just me. Back to the ladies. I am taking time warming up to Monde’s character but her talent looks promising. I am definitely going to enjoy watching her.

*drum roll please* I have found a new on-screen love. Who is Dawn Thandeka King (plays Mazet)? Where has she been all my life? How do I get a hold of her? My goodness what talent. This is the first character I fell in love with and still am in love with. I am not an expert on TV production but what I do know is that Dawn was one of the best choices for this show. I would love to see more of her on our screens. I think I will also start being a regular on “Uzalo” just to get my dose of Thandeka. In case you were wondering, her Twitter handle is @DawnTKing.

Have you watched the show? What do you think? Who is your fav so far?

By Keagi

#BeingMaryJane

Oh my word, you ladies SO have to watch the new season of Being Mary Jane, whatever mojo they had lost in the last season, it looks like they sure regained in Season 4.

#BeingMaryJaneThe show premiered in the US on 10 January and here at home we’ll be able to watch Monday, 23 January at 21:30 on BET (129) when America is already on 3 episodes *rolling my eyes* . 

When you wake up in South Africa on a Monday morning to check your twitter and are welcomed by Gabrielle Union live tweeting with her fellow Americans, how in the Lawd’s name are you supposed to wait 3 weeks to see what they are going crazy about? BET & DSTV really have to come up with a way to get this show on Express from The US. I have resorted to watching online – I just don’t have the patience.

Enough about my complaints:

Bathong, Mary Jane is too much guys and I get so annoyed at the bits of me I see in her. Not the fact that she seems to get sex so easily, that’s hard for some of us lol, but the other men related stuff. The first 2 episodes of this season were really great, I think you’ll enjoy them and there’ll be lots for us to talk about afterwards.

So without spoiling it for you – in this new season she has moved to New York, she has a new job at a new Network but also has her sight on a senior role, occupied by Ronda. Now this is where the twist comes in. I will leave you to watch and make your own assessment of her. That Ronda is something alright.

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Ronda is played by a familiar face & brilliant actress, Valarie Pettiford & the new MJ love interest we meet in Episode 1 is Lee, a Nigerian British dude with an accent that will melt your heart. He’s not really the type of guy I thought MJ would go for but I think that’s a big part of why he is in the picture. Episode 2 makes it clear.

The role is played by English actor, Chike Okonkwo and I wish I could say more but I’ll stop at “He’s charming.” Please have a look at the way he  and MJ meet and let’s talk about whether it’s safe to do that in South Africa. We will start the conversation after…  I so admire how liberated Mary Jane is.

Oh, and Michael Ealy only comes on in Episode 2 so there is lots to look forward to *wink*

Mary Jane’s BFF Kara moved to New York with her, and even though I said BFF, I feel like “sidekick” is a better description – I have a tiny weeny problem with their one-sided friendship. A topic for another day.

So ladies, Monday, 23 January 2017 at 21:30, @CHICAAfrica will live tweet #BeingMaryJane with you so we can all get shocked and awed by Mary Jane Paul!

It’s so good I’ll watch again.

Lelo

We are loving Real Talk with Anele on SABC 3. After Noeleen bowed out of the slot a while ago, we wondered who would fill her shoes. Anele’s show is a perfect fit as she brings her bubbly personality and personal anecdotes to the show while allowing her guests to also tell their stories.

She had reigning gospel queen, Rebecca Malope on the show the other day and these were some of the best moments from the interview.

We get to see a different side to her personality…

We are all familiar with sis Ribs’ bubbly personality. She does not hold back and laughs wholeheartedly on Gospel Time and Clash of the Choirs. It was a lovely surprise to learn that she battled with anger from her abuse-filled childhood, so much so that she used to get physical with anyone who she thought she needed protection from. Over the years she has had to train herself to manage the anger, after her mentor Sizwe Zako told her that she needed to change to suit her gospel image. This quality makes her more relatable and makes us love her even more.

She speaks about her love life…

We have heard many rumours about Rebecca’s love life. We have heard that she is a lesbian, some have linked her up with the late Vuyo Mokoena and we have heard of the men who left her. In the interview, she talks about how growing up without a positive representation of what love is has resulted in her having trust issues when it comes to relationships. She also speaks about her fiancé and speaks about her views on marriage, which are very surprising considering that she is a woman of God.

She speaks about being a doctor…

Rebecca holds two honorary doctorates from the University of KwaZulu-Natal and the University of California. Both of these are in honour of her contributions in the music industry as well as her philanthropic work. She speaks about how she thought they were making a mistake the first time she was contacted and informed that she would be receiving an honorary doctorate as she is not educated.

Other notable moments in the interview include her almost taking over the show from Anele, talking about the party Nelson Mandela threw for her, getting R10 from Brenda Fassie, reconnecting with her estranged parents after becoming famous, all the parody accounts on social media and why she will never open her own church.

Check out the full interview below:

Tickets to Rebecca’s autobiographical musical, Angingedwa: My Story, opens at Carnival City on Saturday, 3 December 2016. Tickets are available at Computicket from R200.

by Richmond Sajini

Kagiso Modupe

CHICA TV:

One of my favourite people to follow on Instagram is actor, Kagiso Modupe because even though I’ve never met him, I think he’s one of the funniest people around. And I get to this conclusion, purely based on his IG posts.

Kagiso Modupe

On Sunday he posted what I thought was an interesting but also very topical issue on celebrities.

In the video, Kagiso explained that the reason you are likely to bump into our favourite celebrity in a taxi or bus is because our entertainers are seen as Contractors and not Permanent workers and as a result banks are hesitant to give them vehicle finance or homeloans. This therefore means that they have to buy such things cash and honestly how many of us would be able to buy these things cash!

So if you ever bump into your fave celeb at Bree or Noord taxi rank, the message is to think twice before passing judgment.

 

Kagiso hopes to make this a weekly “insta vlog” and next week he will be talking about why we think celebs are rude when we greet and ask them for pictures.

I have a suspicion this is going to be one popular weekly vlog! Watch this space…

You can follow him on @KagisoModupe on IG

 

By LeloB