In an episode of The Real, the ladies got into a discussion about situationships. While they seemed to have different ideas of what it is, I found mine to be a bit inclusive of everyone's thoughts.
For me, a situationship is a relationship that is purely for convenience without any expectations for it becoming anything meaningful. Convenience could mean purely sexual, or that you only keep each other company or even for financial gain. The list is endless.
During the segment, Tamar argues that situationships are normal because we can't go into every relationship thinking that that person is the one. Tamera on the other hand says that she is not one to go into a relationship or start seeing someone without thinking it could potentially grow into something more.
While I'm more on Tamera's side on this one, I have recently found myself in a situationship without having planned it. I'm definitely someone who goes on a date with high hopes that we will hit it off and hopefully have a next date and maybe pursue a full-on relationship. However, life has a way of just happening sometimes and you find yourself really enjoying someone's company even though you know that you are definitely not gonna be spending the rest of your life with them.
I have also found that someone is bound to get hurt if it is not a mutual situationship, meaning that the other party actually has hopes of it lasting while you don’t. You spend a lot of time feeling guilty that you are not in it for the long haul and when you’re together you constantly wonder “Should I tell him?
The fair answer is yes, but when you have not yet found “the one” you will find a myriad of reasons to justify why you should definitely not tell him that you’re not in it to stay because you are too busy enjoying the “benefits” of having someone while you don’t really have someone.
Before I spill my entire life story, can you relate? Tl tl tl tl…
Have you ever been in s situationship? Do you think they are a healthy and normal part of the dating scene?
Watch the ladies get into it below:
By Richmond
My situationsituationship became a relationship but wouldn't do it again
I agree with dating for a purpose, but also so what if situationships turn into relationships. As long as we vibe lets ride the wave till it dies out. Ive learned there is no right way of dating especially in our trying times of a shortage of men.
Me me me! I'm in a situationship! I'm an idiot! Sigh!
I once had a situationship... it was a mutual agreement at the time I came out of a long term relationship and I wasn't in the mood and space to be attached. Years later we both decided to date: it did not work out. Now am all grown up I'll never do it again.
Situationships. Lol. I think both situationships and r/ships have their place and timing. Not every r/ship you enter will lead to marriage or be long-term; sometimes you just wanna kick it! My only worry is when a no-strings-attached arrangement starts to have an emotional connection, it becomes tricky. I also think as ladies we struggle slightly more than guys in keeping our emotional attachment separate from an ongoing sexual situationship. It just ends up being such a mess.
The minute I foresee emotional attachment I just cut off. Quick
I guess most ladies have been in a situationship...however never to be repeated again. Situationships are quite tricky sometimes as we can't tell the feelings not to be attached, it just happens especially after a few sexual encounters. If one goes into a situationship, expectations must just be managed. Not a good idea though.
The thing is, women are highly emotional creatures and we attach meaning to a lot of things. We might want a situationship- but later on we tend to want the full on glory of a relationship; I try to stay away from situationships 'cause I'm a total sucker for love and I don't want to spend a ton of my time with someone I don't see a future with.
Not a fan of situationships. It's a very -on-the-fence' approach to relationships. It's a sorta kinda relationship but not really where is becomes hard AF to manage two people's emotions nomatter what the agreement is. Hate the not-knowingness of it all. Not a fan.