This time last year I was in love with a good man who made me happy, but unfortunately months later, around my birthday, it crumbled. There were no tears, there was no bitterness from me, just disappointment about why/when it ended, overall gratitude for having experienced such a love and CLARITY. Amazing how “love” sometimes […]

A recent whatsapp conversation led me to think about my relationship with ASKING. I think I have generally always been scared to ask for what I want - in dating, business and life in general. Looking at what has been happening in my life recently, I thankfully acknowledge that I have made considerable efforts to […]

Growing the “NO” muscle – musings from a recovering people-pleaser You have a right to say no. Most of us have very weak and flaccid ‘no’ muscles. We feel guilty for saying no. We get ostracized and challenged for saying no, so we forget it’s our choice. Your ‘no’ muscle has to be built up […]

Professional Girlfriending You know how everyone has a favourite celeb, or celeb friendship, celeb couple; every now and then posting them as “goals”, thinking about what could possibly be your position if you were them? Come on now, don’t front. We all have one or two of those. Beyonce and JayZ were for the longest […]

I just started listening to podcasts in the car and it is one of the best things I could have done for myself. If you follow me on twitter you would have already seen this as I've posted and wow'ed about how amazing it is. I've always listened to 702 on the way to work […]

A blessed and beautiful 2018 to you and your families CHICAs!  We have yet another chance to start a new, clean page to re-write our stories, let's make it good! I was browsing through the CHICA Relationship section (HERE)  and realized that most of the stories we shared are sad. I wondered why we don't […]

I am an unmarried mother of one, my son is now at an age where he can apply for an ID card and he's brought up the topic of wanting to use his father's last name. I don't know why this feels like rejection but I got emotional about it and still don't quite know […]

Beginning of July I shared with you the journey I was embarking on, seeking professional help in the form of therapy. In the article, I shared about how I was raped and molested by my oldest half-brother whom I met for the first time between the ages of 6-10 years and he was between 14-16 […]

Hey Beautiful Women, I have a bit of an issue that I was hoping maybe you'd help me tackle. I'm a 22 year old tertiary student and in my 22 years of life, I've never had a boyfriend. To be more precise, I've never had a guy approach me or ask me out or anything […]

Life is tricky. Perhaps a more nuanced version of that is that adult life is tricky. As I have come into adulthood, I have learnt that there is a lot to think about. There are feelings to protect, one’s self to interrogate and relationships to preserve. The part about preserving relationships is a real art. […]