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May 24, 2016
All You Need Is Online Love (Part 2)

Gone are the days when you would shake at the site of Hlomla Dandala & Vanessa Jansen in a blue and pink love “shmovana” approaching your work place or campus. Being the hopeless romantic that I am, I knew that one day I would love to see that bus come for me. I mean? Ok! […]

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May 23, 2016
Masturbation: Don't Deprive Yourself

Oh we are such a sexually oppressed people (us woman.) I remember a scene from a drama called Gaz’lam on SABC 1. A woman (played by Manaka Ranaka) walked into a scene where her friend (played by Bonnie Mbuli) was touching herself. Down there. Moaning, groaning, enjoying. Candles lit, soft music, wine and all. She […]

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May 20, 2016
All You Need Is Online Love

“The course of true love never did run smooth” – Shakespeare (A Midsummer Night’s Dream) Shakespeare called it and maybe I should have listened better in my English classes when I read it. Maybe I was oblivious to the reality of what it could mean then. I mean, love is hardly ever a priority at […]

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May 18, 2016
So, Who Should Be Dating These Rich Men?

A non-conclusive reflection on the mass lambasting of women in relationships with rich men, by other women. Lately the dialogue of women dating materially rich men has been re-opened and met with a plethora of discussion. This article is not a discussion of whether the “blesser-culture” is morally correct or not; that’s been discussed to […]

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May 17, 2016
Could We have Helped Create This Patriarchal Society?

Perhaps calling him “young man” or referring to him as ‘baba’ from the age of 2 is where the damage began. Perhaps the fact that he was seldom addressed as exactly what he was; a boy, is what made him think that he is entitled to a woman’s respect when he gets older. Could it […]

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May 17, 2016
Forgiveness & Accepting The Apology You Never Got

I have been struggling a lot lately with the concept of forgiveness. I mean what is forgiveness, when should we forgive, who should we forgive and what should we forgive?? These are all the questions that have been running through my mind. A man caller recently called in on Metro FM during the breakfast show […]

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May 16, 2016
It’s Not The Birds And The Bees. It’s Sex!

It’s not the Birds and the Bees. It’s Sex and your kids are talking about it.  Early!  A lot of us stumbled onto our sexualities and were left to figure it out all by ourselves without the guidance and assurances of the most important people in our lives. Our parents. When I say sexuality, I’m not […]

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May 12, 2016
What Type Of Friend Are You?

There is no greater gift in a person’s life than that of a life-long, solid, genuine, nurturing friendship. Friends are like the family we choose for ourselves and their presence in our lives is one of the most influential.  I’d throw in friends in the same basket with parents and siblings where formative influence is […]

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May 11, 2016
Never Beg For What You Have The Power To Create

Never beg for that which you have the power to create or earn. I remember growing up as a young girl and playing in the streets. I was always the one that didn’t get picked for the team. My hand co-ordination was disastrous and I couldn’t jump higher than a few odd centimetres and so […]

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May 6, 2016
Mommyhood

Mommyhood – balancing both worlds Balancing both worlds is challenging yet rewarding in the same breath.  Being a mother, wife and career driven woman is hard. What is balance and how do we find that balance? I’m a mother of two lovely boys aged 8 and 2. I’m a wife to an amazing partner and […]

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