A few years ago, I was under so much pressure and was constantly feeling stressed out. Feelings of anxiety would literally rise from the pits of my stomach and pile up in my chest ready to burst on a daily basis.  Desperate to relieve myself of these feelings, I turned to smoking as a way […]

Thanks  Mom My mom used to force my siblings and I to take bubble baths in the evening. Every single evening, even the holidays (which probably explains why we spent our holidays away from home now). Mom knew that we were sluggish and late in the mornings and took very quick showers as a result. […]

Which marriage contract would you consider? Nearly half of marriages in South Africa end up in divorce. Are we bound by marriage contracts? Do we understand these marriage contracts or do we just get excited that my man popped the question and not think about the practicalities of being in a marriage. I recently had […]

This is part 2 of the ‘10 Tips on Navigating through the Bad Vibes in the Work Environment’, you can read part 1 HERE. The below tips include excerpts from “The 10 Commandments of Working in a Hostile Environment”, an e-sermon by TD Jakes. Step Away From That Clique: Do not pledge allegiance with the […]

YOU CHOSE TO STAY. OWN IT. Bekezeli Mfazi! (Endure Woman!)  The woman is taught this from the moment she can string together two sentences. We’ve all sat around for endless hours discussing how strong women are for enduring varied levels of malice and hostility from their husbands.  We all know an aunt whose husband runs […]

I don’t like dogs. To a large extent, I’m irritated by them. They’ve been coined ‘man’s best friend’ and I often wonder how this came into being. I’ve been told that they’re happy when they wag their tails and pant. I don’t get it; to me it looks like their preparing to come for me. […]

The time you collectively dedicate to your work life accounts for the largest chunk of your life than anything else. Waking up early in the morning, getting ready, commuting to and from the workplace and being on the graft for 8 hours for 5 days a week means that we spend most of our lives […]

Some time ago I was out for dinner with a few industry people.  Six people sat around our table, 3 of which were black (myself included). The conversation flowed- we spoke about everything from work to hair to brands and ultimately adoption. As everyone shared their opinion on the topic, one of the black ladies […]

A couple of months ago I came across a video of Jacob Mason talking about why he loves black women. I was intrigued so I watched the almost 10mins long video and it left me with mixed feelings. Sure it was interesting that this good looking man was talking so nicely about black women but […]

Being a mom is an unimaginable gift from God. It means more than having given birth to a child. It means loving and caring for a soul before you even meet them. Being a mom means having to give air to the lungs that grew within you. I remember the first time the doctor told […]